by Michelle Martinez

The BodyWise Manifesto

January 8, 2022 | Body Love, Embodied Spirituality, Pleasure & Orgasms, Sacred Sexuality, Social Leadership

I believe

All bodies are made for sex, intimacy, pleasure, and connection.

Beauty is impossible to quantify or measure.

Beauty is wildly abundant and refreshingly diverse.

Sexual freedom and spiritual liberation are inseparable.

Sexual empowerment can look and feel many different ways, because we are sexually oppressed and conditioned in many different ways.

The deeper into our bodies we dare to go, the higher in consciousness we rise.

Most humans only experience about 5-10% of the ecstasy and pleasure that their bodies are designed for, and despite generations of conditioning, it is possible to learn to access more -- much more -- within one lifetime. 

The repression of feminine energy and sexual expression is the root cause of nearly every social and environmental injustice that plagues our world.

Feeling sensual, feminine, magnetic, desirable, and luscious in one's own body is available to anyone who desires to embody those feelings, and is completely independent of body size, shape, age, gender, trauma history, or physical abilities.

The best, most mind-blowing sex is about multi-faceted attraction, chemistry, honest communication, and the open flow of love and energy

Women, feminine humans, and non-binary folks suffer more under patriarchy than cis-masculine-men do, but no one truly thrives within it.

Sexuality does not need to be moralized in order to be honored as sacred.

Sexual energy -- like any form of energy -- can be used in service of Highest Good and the remembering of one's essence-nature in connection with all there is...

...or for domination over others, reinforcement of the self-delusion of separateness, and protection of one's ego-feeding identities

Our beliefs are our most powerful oppressors and liberators.

All love begins and ends in self-love, and all hate begins and ends in self-hate.

I want a world where...

Having a regular "sexuality practice" to feel and connect with one's own body, to practice moving, expanding, and transmuting sexual energy, is as normal as having a regular workout routine

Everyone speaks the language of Feminine Pleasure 

Vulvas and vaginas are revered as sacred vessels of pleasure, life, and beauty.

Men know how to use the medicine of their cock and sexual energy to fuck their partners to GOD, and they are glad to be of service. 

The concept of body shame has become foreign, even incomprehensible.

Men are free to express and accept the full spectrum of human emotion.

Attractiveness is understood as energetically magnetic, emotionally captivating, spiritually grounded, and full of beautiful life.... as opposed to simply, "good-looking"

The medicinal properties of pleasure are understood and used widely.

Sexual education focuses on consent, communication, self-awareness, and the non-reproductive motivations and benefits of sexual intimacy

Aging is as much a sign of distinction and power in women as it is in men

We don't bother trying to understand the "rules" and labels of human sexuality, because we have stopped believing there are any.

A Note on Gender & Language

When I use the term "woman," I include all those who include themselves in that identity, whether statically or fluidly.  I am not particularly interested in defining who is and is not a woman, or when, or why.

However, I want you to know that my programs have been influenced heavily by my experiences as a cis, mostly-hetero woman. They are designed to help others address the types of challenges I've encountered carrying those identities through the world: 

  • Being told (explicitly or implicitly) that my sexual pleasure as a woman is secondary to a man's
  • Internalizing the narrative that my value as a sexual partner is strongly tied to how good-looking I am, how "sexy" my body is
  • Feeling shame about the appearance and smell of my vulva
  • Pressure to hide all evidence of menstruation
  • Evaluating the success of a sexual interaction based on how much my partner enjoyed himself, rather than how good it felt for me
  • Fearing for my safety if I rejected someone too harshly
  • Fearing damage to my reputation if I was too sexually active or had too many sexual partners
  • Feeling drained and burned-out when operating from masculine energy too long, and feeling chronic disconnection from the feminine energy of my sexual essence

Some of these experiences are anchored in my biology: having a vulva, vagina, uterus, and ovaries. 

Some are the result of socialization: others perceiving me, and treating me, as female my entire life. 

Some are related to being in romantic partnerships with men.

Some are about my identity as a human with a feminine sexual essence

Your experience of womanhood may include all, some, or none of these in common with mine. 

I try to be transparent about whether a program of mine will be referencing specific biology (e.g. "Yoni Massage"), socialization, being in sexual relationship with men, or cultivating feminine sexual energy so that you can determine whether it will be relevant to your experiences and desires or not.

Members of the LGBTQI+ community are always welcome in my containers and I do my best to use inclusive language so that you KNOW you are welcome.  I believe that in a truly sex positive society we'd all be at least a little queer, and the coaching methods I use are effective regardless of the sexual labels that a person accepts or rejects for themselves.

However, if you are looking for a coach who understands the lived experience of being queer or having a sexual identity or self-expression that has fallen outside the mainstream, and the struggles that come with that, I won't be able to provide that for you. 

Below are several coaches who are much more skilled in this area than I am:

About the author, Michelle Martinez


With degrees in Psychology and Public Health, and VITA-certification as a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, Female Sexuality Coach, and Tantric Sex Coach, Michelle is on a mission to help women re-establish loving, pleasurable, and powerful relationships with their bodies and sexuality through mindfulness, tantra, and cultural change.

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