by Michelle Martinez

How to maintain love and connection (and not get defensive) when you feel criticized

April 21, 2024 | Relationships

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When your significant other expresses disappointment in you , or asks you to do something differently... do you immediately get defensive? 

Or start spiraling into self-criticism, saying "I can never do anything right... why do you even want to be with me...." ?

If so.... this video will be a game-changer for you.

You'll learn ONE simple (but definitely not easy) communication skill that, whenever you use it, will make any potentially triggering interactions with your partner feel soooo much more connected, loving, and productive.

  • 00:00 Who I am and the mission that fuels my work
  • 00:26 Quick promo: How you can learn Sexual Healing Massage FREE for one week
  • 01:00 The time I did NOT use this communication skill while doing taxes with my husband & how I caught myself
  • 02:38 What the skill is, and why it's such a game-changer
  • 03:30 Another example
  • 04:44 Why responding with self-beratement is just as unproductive as responding with self-defense
  • 06:48: How to learn more about MELT: The Art of Slow & Tantric Sex

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What if your partner is the one who often gets defensive?

If your significant other often falls into this trap of defensiveness/self-beratement when you try to communicate that you need or want something to be different, you'll want to check out this video:

How to Communicate Effectively with a Defensive Partner
About the author, Michelle Martinez


With degrees in Psychology and Public Health, and VITA-certification as a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, Female Sexuality Coach, and Tantric Sex Coach, Michelle is on a mission to help women re-establish loving, pleasurable, and powerful relationships with their bodies and sexuality through mindfulness, tantra, and cultural change.

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