by Michelle Martinez

I initiated sex every day for 28 days. Here’s what happened.

March 12, 2024 | Relationships

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Who should initiate sex in a relationship?

The answer to this one is pretty simple.

Both people.

(Unless you have an explicit agreement / kink where you both want sex to be initiated by just one of you, then it needs to come from both sides.)

Because if you're in a "lovership" relationship with someone, it is important to feel sexual desire FOR that person and FROM that person.

That said, it is rare for both people to want to initiate sex with the exact same frequency ... would actually be pretty odd for there to be a perfect 50/50 balance around that.

So while it's completely normal for one person in a relationship to want and initiate sex more frequently than the other person, it can really hurt the overall intimacy in a relationship if one person feels that they are rarely, or never, sexually pursued by the other.

That's the pattern I noticed I was getting into, in my own marriage.

So I decided to do something about that.

And if you are the partner who tends to NOT initiate sex in your relationship, and you want to do something about that...

...because you can feel the negative and hurtful impact it is having on your partner and YOU want to figure out how to feel more sexual desire for your own sake as well...

....this video is for you.

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About the author, Michelle Martinez


With degrees in Psychology and Public Health, and VITA-certification as a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, Female Sexuality Coach, and Tantric Sex Coach, Michelle is on a mission to help women re-establish loving, pleasurable, and powerful relationships with their bodies and sexuality through mindfulness, tantra, and cultural change.

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