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TANTRIC

Body Love

A 12-week journey into the pleasure, intuition, and beauty of your body

Begins January 2021 - Enrolling now!


"I just don't feel very sexy..."

Thanks to Photoshop, Instagram filters, and an array of other digital and real-life body-altering tools, women are bombarded by images of flawless skin, inhuman waistlines, and an ever-changing standard of what a woman "should" look like.


The thigh gaps, the plump lips, the radiantly clear skin, the "shelf" booties, six-pack abs, the long lean legs, the round bouncy breasts...


We know it's all kind of bullshit.


We are media-literate enough to know that not even the airbrushed models look like the airbrushed models. We know the reality-altering power of angles and filters. We've seen the documentaries about how women are manipulated to hate their bodies in order to sell products.


So why can't we shake off the crazy beauty pressure??


Because it's not just about media -- it's about what we notice in the world around us.

 

We all have some friends, family, and peers who are fixated on those ideals, judge themselves (and others) for perceived physical flaws, and even bond over body criticism with other women.


And we've all heard men speak in objectifying and judgmental ways about women's bodies.


So most of the time, it just feels like the reality we're faced with.

And we figure it's easier to play the game than to fight it.

It's just too hard to not care about how we look.


And on top of that... we feel bad ABOUT feeling bad about our bodies....

("I'm such a bad feminist...")


But it's okay!


You don't need to stop caring about being physically attractive before you start shifting your relationship to your body!


(thank goddess, right?)  


You just need to learn OTHER ways to think about and experience your body as well....


Because a pleasurable and empowering relationship to your own body is the foundation for getting what you really want in sex and love

And you deserve all of that!

My Story

In my early 20s, I worked as a server at a small, dimly-lit, super-intimate restaurant in Seattle.

It was the kind of place where regulars would convene every night, and the bartender would mediate conversations about politics, philosophy, and sex.  

In an otherwise very sexually liberal environment, one of my female coworkers (let's call her Ashley) happened to be a conservative Christian, committed to not having sex until marriage.

One night, reflecting on Ashley’s abstinence, a male coworker remarked, “It’s such a shame. She has a body built for sex.”  

Ashley had a very curvaceous body -- that va-va-voom-type body type that seems to be implied when someone's figure is described as "feminine" or "womanly".

Suffice it to say, that is not my own body type.

Immediately I felt my heart beat faster and my gut clench. It was the all-too-familiar feeling of body shame, usually triggered by an image or comment reminding me that my body shape is not the most sexy... not ideal... even "boyish," rather than womanly. That my body is a disappointment to the people I most want to attract.

I suddenly realized that he had put into words an idea that I'd been subconsciously internalizing for years, without even realizing it: 

Some bodies are built for sex…and others are not.

And if that was true, what else did that imply??

That some bodies are worthy of sexual desire and others are not.

That some bodies are worthy of sexual pleasure and others are not.

That some bodies are worthy of the physical connection, passion, love, intimacy, power, ecstatic orgasm, and spiritual nourishment of a truly fulfilling sex life.... 

....and others are not.

No. I refuse to accept this.

In a rare moment of being able to articulate and voice the exact empowering thing I wanted to say in response to something that triggered the hell out of me, I said, “Hey — ALL BODIES are built for sex.” 

For far too long, I held myself back from participating fully and freely in my own sexuality, because I didn't think my body was "sexy" enough to have what I wanted...

I didn't have the proportions of a centerfold model. And because I'd only ever seen that type of woman held up as sexually desirable and powerful, and as the love interest in every movie, I internalized the story that deep love and passionate sex were for women with THOSE bodies.

In an effort to hate my body less, I tried dieting, excessive exercise, therapy, expensive makeup, you name it. I've fantasized about cosmetic surgery plenty of times.

Then, on a tantra retreat in 2019, I experienced the worst body shame spiral of my entire life.

Two days later, I was dancing naked on a beach with 40 other women, reunited with the natural love, joy, and awe toward my body that I hadn't experienced since I was a child... that magical time when I had no idea a part of my body or pleasure could feel wrong, dirty, sinful, or ugly.

That retreat was part of a year-long deep dive into Tanta-inspired healing practices that pushed me to confront my body shame and sexual shame at the same time.

In that process, I realized that in order to have a pleasurable and empowered relationship with my own body, I needed to realize that my body and sexuality are, first and foremost, for ME to love and enjoy.  

I can have thriving relationships with my breasts, belly, and pussy that have nothing to do with anyone else's opinions or preferences. 

And now I am using those tantra-inspired healing practices to guide clients into their own embodied experiences of wholeness, worthiness, and beauty, just as they are.

The Problem

Women are struggling to thrive sexually.

The sexual objectification of female bodies and the under-valuing of the Feminine have led to three painful consequences:

1

Feeling unattractive and unworthy of attention from constant beauty/body comparison and competition with other women

2

Dismissing their own sexual desires and pleasure as too complicated, too time-consuming, unimportant, or downright nonexistent

3

Difficulty feeling safe and relaxed in sexual relationships due to past trauma, violation, and objectification

We try so many things to attract the passion we desire.

Diets, workout plans, expensive makeup, a new wardrobe...

Maybe you've even tried therapy.

Traditional therapies often focus on fixing your cognition -- it can provide you with the logical understanding that your beliefs and thought patterns aren't grounded in facts.


For some people, this is enough.


But for others, knowing that these thoughts aren't rational isn't enough to shake them.


That's because these thoughts and beliefs are buried deeper than logic and what's rational. They are sitting inside your body and need to get out.


The years of ancestrally and culturally inherited misogyny, sexual shame and objectification are deeply rooted in your psyche, sitting in your cells, embedded as memories in your mind, your muscles, your skin, your energy...


You need something other than thought alone -- something embodied, something primal -- to access these wounds, release them, and achieve lasting transformation.


I've got you.

Does this sound familiar?

I know what it's like...

  • Scrolling through Instagram feeling simultaneously jealous and grossed out by the attention that women get for sexually objectifying themselves
  • Feeling like a total hypocrite because you have strong feminist beliefs and values, but you also fantasize about cosmetic surgery because you are so tired of feeling insecure about your body
  • Testing your partner, picking fights, pushing them away, and sabotaging your relationship because it’s too hard to trust that they love you as much as they say they do
  • Feeling resentful toward men because you're convinced they only care about looks, presumably because they’re “visual creatures”
  • Settling for sex that doesn’t truly satisfy you because it’s too frustrating to figure out what feels good to you -- you’ve tried self-pleasuring before and you just feel numb and bored
  • Struggling to enjoy yourself at the beach, the pool, clothing-optional spas, etc., because all you can think about is how your body compares to other women’s and whether your partner is more attracted to them than to you
  • Feeling yourself tense up whenever there’s nudity in TV or movies because you hate the thought of being compared to the “perfect” bodies of actresses
  • Holding yourself back from talking or flirting with people you are genuinely attracted to because you tell yourself they’re “out of your league” and you’re not beautiful enough for them
  • Judging and resenting women who appear confident in their own bodies, because you don't feel like you could EVER feel that way in yours
  • Resisting career-advancing opportunities to be more visible and impactful because you are horrified at the idea of being seen on stage, in photos, or on video
  • Settling for mediocre relationships because you don’t think you’ll be able to find anyone else who will be attracted to you and love you as much 

Our self-objectification drains our pleasure and power in subtle but incessant ways.

Is your body criticism an excuse to avoid intimacy?

Let's talk about intimacy.

True intimacy. The deep connection kind.


Your body judgment is holding you back from loving your partner with everything you are.


Even though your partner reassures you all the time how attractive you are and that they love your body the way it is, your own lack of self-worth won't allow you to feel safe enough to freely express yourself physically or emotionally.


The constant effort to be the "attractive" kind of sexual during moments of intimacy makes sex into a stressful performance rather than an authentic connection where you can bring your whole, real, messy self to the bedroom.


You worry so much how they see you that you aren't able to feel their desire for you, just as you are, perfectly imperfect.


Deep down, you long to experience a truly deep and meaningful connection with your partner but your insecurity keeps getting in the way.


Because no matter how often you hear it and "know" it in your mind, you don't believe you are desirable enough.

Heal your relationship with your body 

through your body

The reason other therapeutic approaches haven't worked for you is because they pull focus away from your body, rather than showing you how to see and experience your body in a completely new way.


 They treat the problem like it's all in your mind, and try to solve it through logic and reason, but ignore the ways that self-objectifying beliefs are held inside of you energetically and physiologically.


To heal your relationship with your body, you have to remember how to use the healing powers OF YOUR BODY, and I'm going to show you how.


12-WEEK PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAM FOR WOMEN

Tantric Body Love

Tantric Body Love is a 12-week coaching program that draws from the energetic healing principles of neo-tantra, mindfulness research, and female pleasure and sexuality to help you develop a relationship with your body that is pleasurable and empowering, so you can have the confidence and worthiness to create the love and sex life you dream about with the glorious body you have.


Using neo-tantric tools and processes for energetic healing that speak to your primal and subconscious brain, I will show you practical, concrete ways to experience the profound natural beauty, pleasure, and wisdom of your body.  


Through breath work, energy movement, pleasure, and continual mind-body alignment, you'll create a resilient foundation of love and connection to yourself that will empower you for a lifetime of thriving in sex, love, sisterhood, and beyond.

The sexual-spiritual practices of neo-tantra can shift your relationship to your body from habitual criticism to one of enduring gratitude and love in 6 distinct ways:

#1 Beauty Abundance

Michelle helped me break through a piece that I had been working on for years... how to reconcile wanting to be in a polyamorous relationship while at the same time constantly comparing myself to other partners and other women.

Magda Yoc / Private Coaching Client

#2 Expansive Pleasure

I felt so much more anchored in my body and way less resistance to self-pleasure. I experienced states of pure ecstasy when I was doing sessions with Michelle and I know this is just the beginning for me. I feel way more open to the orgasmic potential of my body!

Michelle Panning / Private Coaching Client, Intimacy Coach

#3 Emotional Mastery

A new tool that I learned from you [Michelle] was bringing consciousness to a part of my body that is feeling a sensation and talking to it -- I've never done that before...bringing consciousness to it. It's helped me to connect to my body in a much deeper way and process my emotions. I will 100% take that moving forward, and it's something that I share with other people.

Sadie / Private Coaching Client

#4 Embodied Self Love

The home play sessions that Michelle sent me each week were truly magical and enabled me to reconnect to my inner radiance and cultivate an inner ecology of self-love and compassion.

Claire G. / Private Coaching Client

#5 Liberation from Sexual Shame

Michelle's body and heart wisdom and masterful guidance have allowed me to expand my frame of reference around love, cultivate a deeper connection to my current partner, and begin to break free from shame.

Chelsea A. / Private Coaching Client

I always thought tantric sex was mainly about the other partner but what is incredibly liberating is that you can find joy and pleasure and NO shame in your own sacred soul and body.

D. & G. / Tantra-for-Couples Clients (not pictured)

#6 Trusting & Respecting the Body

I did Pussy Love work with Michelle which helped me to honor my body for who she is right now. It was empowering, and I don't think I'll ever look at my body the same way again. I have enormous respect now for the body I have, even though there are things I want to change to become healthier.

Brit / Private Coaching Client

Life-changing benefits no matter your relationship status

In a Relationship

Increased desire for sexual connection and intimacy

More satisfying sex from heightened awareness of pleasure and sexual energy in the body

Stronger trust and sense of security

Actively Dating

The confidence to pursue people you are sincerely attracted to (instead of thinking you have to settle for "what you can get")

More satisfying and empowered sexual experiences, at any commitment level

The patience to not rush into potentially toxic relationships, knowing you can meet your own sexual needs 

 

Single, Not Dating

More satisfying and expansive experiences during self-pleasure

Deeper trust in your body's intuition and knowing how to feel into it

The confidence to be more authentic and visible in your relationships

Less envy and comparison with other women

TRUST

Your Body

FRAMEWORK

You will learn tools to change your mindset (the way you THINK about your body), and embodiment practices (to change the way you FEEL in your body), which are both essential to transform your relationship to your body in a lasting and sustainable way.

These tools are embedded within my exclusive T.R.U.S.T. Your Body framework to make sure you learn these essential skills in the most effective and powerful sequence, each module building upon the last.

Module 1: Tune into your body

Use mindfulness and sense-awakening tools to connect with your "felt sense" and learn to process difficult emotions as sensations in the body

Module 2: Releasing conditioning, trauma, & lies

Learn to use sound, movement, breath work, and self-pleasure for gentle healing and restoring an embodied sense of your most natural, empowered self

Module 3: Upgrading your truth

Let yourself indulge your deepest desires, experience a felt sense of your own worthiness, and create the inner ecology you need to thrive in sex, love, and life itself!

Module 4: Sensualize the new reality

Dive more deeply into the practices that work best for you, and embody your most confident, thriving self on a felt, somatic level

Module 5: Testing the waters

Complete at least one personal experiment (based on your initial goals and desires) to explore how Tantric Body Love has changed how you feel in and about your body

What's Included

Your private coaching package includes:

7 Private Coaching Sessions for Personalized Support

Our bi-weekly 60-minute sessions over Zoom (just you and me) provide the container to make sure you are leveraging the content to get what YOU desire from the program:


  • Address any questions you have about the program content each week
  • Work through any doubt or resistance you're having
  • Make sure you know how to personalize and apply the tools to support the specific desires you have for your unique body love journey


Lifetime Access to "Goal with the Flow" mindset and embodiment practices

The program is structured with 5 online modules, following the T.R.U.S.T. Your Body framework. Each module includes an introductory video and "Goal with the Flow" mindset and embodiment practices that you can return to over and over again.  These are not practices to check off a list and then forget about -- they are habits that become a way of life, so your lifestyle can cultivate flow and supports your goals over the long haul designed to help you:


  1. Achieve your desired outcome
  2. Easily integrate the practices into your existing routine
  3. Shift the way you THINK ABOUT your body 
  4.  Shift the way you FEEL IN your body

Accountability

It is common to face resistance in this type of work, because your brain is addicted to the familiar way of thinking about yourself, even if it's painful. It will fight to keep you in well-worn emotional patterns, but that's why I'm here!  I'll provide the accountability you need to get the results you're here for. 

By committing to a thriving relationship with your body, you are saying YES...

To more pleasure, presence, and joy during sex


To enhancing and enjoying your beauty without betraying your feminist ideals


To emotional mastery over your body shame triggers


To stronger friendships and sisterhood with other women


To expanding your capacity to move energy, pleasure, and orgasm through your body


To the confidence to be seen in your sexiness and turn up your unique sexual magnetism in ways that feel safe and authentically empowering to you


To clarity about what you really want in sex and love, and what truly stands in the way of you and your desires (hint: it's not your body)


To a deep sense of worthiness to have what you deeply desire


To experiencing more turn-on and power in your sexuality (and life in general!)


To mental, spiritual, and energetic freedom from the limiting beliefs that kept you in constant comparison with others' bodies and beauty, and gratitude for being you


To the ability to tap into your primal wildness and access the spiritual wisdom of your body


To lasting resilience to keep loving your body as it changes over time

don't just take it from me...

More Client Testimonials

I started working with Michelle 4 months after coming out of a 10 year relationship. My desire at the beginning of our coaching was to reconnect with the expansiveness of my heart space, bringing me deeper into my feminine essence and opening me up to receive and embrace true intimacy with a man.  


In the week of our final session together, a man came into my world through a totally random series of events and he is everything that I desired in a partner (and so much more).  Sex Magik is epic - it really does work.


Michael and I have been inseparable ever since. He often tells me that he is mesmerized and captivated by me and I know that this is largely to do with this powerful work...For the first time in my life, I have come into a relationship feeling whole as a person and that feels soooo good (and really healthy). 


Michelle is an incredible coach and I cannot recommend her highly enough. Every session was personally curated based on what was alive for me in the moment, yet we also followed a clear path to move towards my desires. The home play sessions that Michelle set me each week were truly magical and enabled me to reconnect to my inner radiance and cultivate an inner ecology of self love and compassion.


Michelle holds you with love, whilst encouraging you to step outside of your comfort zone and take small steps (and sometimes huge leaps) towards your desires. She provides you with a safe space to fully express yourself and uncover the pieces of you that require nurturing. Thank you Michelle, you have been the catalyst for so much beautiful transformation in my world.

Claire

united kingdom

"Michelle was coaching me during a pivotal time in my life, a time when I was ready to shift a lot of patterns that I had unwittingly been reenacting in my intimate relationships. 


Michelle focused mainly on my desires, and got to me to recreate these experiences on a somatic level in my own body. It was so incredible to understand that these experiences are always within me and that I can recreate them at any time.


As we went through our coaching trajectory we uncovered lots of sticky thought processes that were held together from years of societal conditioning and needing to seek external validation.


Building upon each session, we began to paint a new picture of what my new sexual story could be, how to feel beautiful in my own body, and how to de-couple the need for validation through meeting traditional beauty standards.

 

She also helped me breakthrough a piece that I had been working on for years! The piece being how to reconcile wanting to be in a polyamorous relationship while at the same time constantly comparing myself to other partners and other women."


Magda Yoc, Canada

I was motivated to sign up for coaching because I wanted to explore who I am and what I want sexually. I felt ready to explore and uncover resistance. I didn't want my past stories to define me and I wanted to create more inner freedom to open up to deeper connection and more pleasure!

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Michelle is skilled at creating a safe space and building a container to practice, play and explore feelings and physical sensation. Her thoughtful notes following our sessions helped me to refine my goals, and she was great about pinging me weekly to check in on my progress. She helped keep me motivated and remember my intention. Michelle supported me on the path to reclaim my desire.

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I would recommend Michelle to to a friend seeking coaching. Michelle tailored the sessions to my specific needs both physically and energetically. She invites deep reflection and offered refinement to my approach to pleasure and relationship. While weaving in deep philosophic teachings and body awareness. Michelle's body and heart wisdom and masterful guidance have allowed me to expand my frame of reference around love, cultivate a deeper connection to my current partner, and to begin to break free from shame. Michelle's sessions are fun and creative and I always felt safe. I LOVED this coaching and looked forward to them each week!

Chelsea

UNITED STATES

Want results like these?

"Open to the endless possibilities of my body and my pleasure potential"

"I wanted to work through my resistance to self-pleasure and experience orgasm without a vibrator. I got what I wanted!


During the course of working with Michelle, I was able to have a squirting orgasm! I feel so much more anchored in my body and way less resistance to self-pleasure. I experienced states of pure ecstasy when I was doing my sessions with Michelle and I know this is just the beginning for me. I feel way more open to the orgasmic potential of my body.


Before I was CERTAIN that it was impossible for me to have an orgasm and while I may not be having full-body orgasms YET, I feel the absolute potential for them in my body. I could see all the ways that I was blocking myself from pleasure and now I am open to the endless possibilities of my body and my pleasure potential. Thank you, Michelle!"


Michelle P. / Client, Australia

Michelle is receptive and intuitive in how she works with me each week. She knows how to meet me where I am and is patient and loving with me as she guides me through her thoughtful and deep practices. Michelle's beautiful voice keeps me focused and feeling safe as I explore parts of myself that may feel triggering. Without pushing, she guides me through my triggers and I leave my sessions feeling relaxed and integrated. I am grateful to continue working with Michelle because I know these sessions will allow me to learn to love my body more and more!

Jessa

united states

I wanted to deepen the sexual intimacy in my marriage. I also wanted to work through some of my own emotional unavailability and fear of being seen in my relationship... As I worked on being more in my feminine energy, the sexual connection with my husband increased and we actually had spontaneous sex which never happened before!


I also did pussy love work with Michelle which helped me to honor my body for who she is right now. It was empowering, and I don't think I'll ever look at my body the same way again. I have enormous respect now for the body I have even though there are things I want to change to become healthier.

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I wholeheartedly recommend working with Michelle if you're ready to dive deep and do the work in and outside the sessions. She is an incredible coach, and is such a natural at holding space. I feel so thankful that I had the opportunity to work with her!

brit

About your coach,
Michelle Martinez, MPH

In addition to focusing on sexuality and spiritual growth as a key aspect of body image work, there are three key elements that set me apart from other coaches:   


VITA™ Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach 

I am certified in the Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach to coaching, with specialized certification in Female Sexuality and Tantric Sex.  My experience has shown me that body image issues are healed by diving deeper into the truth of the body as a sacred aspect of our human identity, rather than trying to transcend or dismiss the body as a part of who you are.  The key is to learn to value your body as an essential part of your own wisdom, sexual agency, power, and pleasure, rather than an object whose value is outsourced to the judgment and preferences of others. 


Trauma-informed

My work is highly trauma-informed. With a PTSD research team in Seattle, I have co-authored 16 publications appearing in the American Journal of MedicineMedical Care, the Journal of Clinical Psychology, the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, and the Journal of Traumatic Stress, as well as a chapter on Post-traumatic Stress Disorder in the 4th Edition of Integrative Medicine.


Supported by mindfulness-based therapies & research

I spent a decade in psychology research labs, exploring the benefits and mechanisms of change for therapies such as Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and Dialectical Behavior Therapy on trauma and depression, which inform my coaching practice.

Faq

if i learn to love my body as it is, won't that make me lose motivation to eat healthy and work out? i think a little dissatisfaction with my body is good for me...

The idea that feeling dissatisfied with your body motivates you to behave in healthier ways is VERY common...and also a total myth.  The truth is that we often engage in our most self-destructive behavior when we feel bad about ourselves.  You cannot shame yourself into becoming a better version of yourself (that's not how shame works).  When we feel love, compassion, and gratitude toward our bodies, we are FAR more likely to engage in behavior that is kind to our systems and helps us to thrive and keep feeling good! And in fact, cultivating an energy of love makes us inherently more radiant!  Trust me on this: self-love can only make you more attractive.

do you ever work with men struggling with these issues, or just women?

YES, I love working with men! It is my firm belief that poor body image and body disconnection is a universal problem. The fact that it tends to be recognized primarily as a women's issue makes it even more difficult for men to feel comfortable seeking help to overcome these struggles, and I want to change that.  

do you ever work with clients in person?

Currently, all my services are offered through online platforms exclusively.  

why 12 weeks? what if I see my desired results sooner than that, or i want more sessions?

In my experience with this methodology, 12 weeks tends to be the optimal amount of time for clients to see results and develop habits for sustainable continued progress. If you feel that you've achieved the results you were hoping for in fewer sessions, and you do not wish to continue, you do not have to use all twelve sessions. However, you will not be refunded for the sessions you do not use. If you reach the 12th session and you are loving it and want to keep going, we can do that too!  There is no maximum number of sessions you can have, but 12 is the minimum for this program.

A final note

This coaching program is a uniquely transformative process designed to help you return to the joy and pleasure you naturally experienced in your body before the world convinced you something was wrong with it. The practices and healing methods I'll show you have worked for me on a deeper level than anything else I've tried, because they required me to work through my limiting beliefs on a physiological and energetic level, not just mentally.


Do not resign yourself to the insecurities that leave you vulnerable to the opinions of others to dictate how you feel about your body. You have the power to change not just how you see your body, but how you experience it. And you can get there with more presence, pleasure, and empowerment than you ever thought possible.


The process of healing your relationship with your body and sexuality is essential to becoming the woman you want to be.  


Shall we begin?

And I said to my body, softly, "I want to be your friend." It took a long breath and replied, "I've been waiting my whole life for this."

Nayyirah Waheed

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