3 Ways to Love Your Body (even when you don't feel cute)
Body love is WAY more than just liking the way you look. In fact, for a lot of people, it's not about that at all -- they love their bodies simply because they have found OTHER ways to appreciate and enjoy them.
Want to know how they do it??
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hi, I'm michelle.
And I want to help you love your body so you can finally
Seriously. This is important.
You might not feel very sexy, and you might believe that feeling hot and vibrant, filled with aliveness and pleasure, is never going to be your thing.
I get it. I know what you're going through.
Most days, you feel "fine" about your body, but this sense of apathy is numbing. You've become disconnected from it, and you might not realize it. This has been the default state of being for you, and all the other women you know, for so long.
The chatter of the inner body critic pointing out all the things you need to "fix" or "work on"...
Having a hard time relaxing into your body and feeling pleasure...
Comparing yourself to the beauty and sex appeal of other women so easily it feels like second nature...
It all feels.... normal. Natural, even.
But the truth is that it's not natural at all. This degree of self-objectification is not natural, and it's holding you back from experiencing the connection, authenticity, and love that you are divinely designed for.
And because of that, you aren't fully expressing and enjoying yourself sexually.
The body shame, numbness, and internalized trauma all get in the way of experiencing your potential for true intimacy and expansive, even SACRED, states of pleasure.
But, it doesn't have to be this way. And it's certainly not your fault.
No matter your age, shape, or size, you have the capacity to build a THRIVING relationship with your own body, which is the key to fulfilling partnerships, the best sex of your life, and genuine sisterhood with other women.
The work of un-learning our own sexual objectification as women is not easy work, but the payoff is HUGE...
Ready to learn more?
Body Confidence Mastery
We all know those people: the ones who seem so comfortable and confident in their own skin and can draw people to them with a magnetic sex appeal, all without being conventionally "hot." How do they do it? Body confidence. And I've created a free series to help you embody it yourself:
- Stop comparing yourself to others and love the skin you're in
- Feel magnetic and worthy of the love, sex, and adoration you truly desire
- Form empowering habits and beliefs that create connection with yourself and others
“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
- Steve Maraboli -
Michelle Martinez, MPH
Mindfulness and Trauma Expert
10 years of clinical psychology research
I spent a decade in psychology research labs, exploring the benefits and mechanisms of change for therapies such as Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and Dialectical Behavior Therapy on trauma and depression, and mindfulness is a key aspect of my work with clients.
My work is also highly trauma-informed. With a PTSD research team in Seattle, I have co-authored 16 publications appearing in the American Journal of Medicine, Medical Care, the Journal of Clinical Psychology, the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, and the Journal of Traumatic Stress, as well as a chapter on Post-traumatic Stress Disorder in the 4th Edition of Integrative Medicine.
Certified Sex, Love, & Relationship Coach
The Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach
I received my coaching training at the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality, with specialized certification in Female Sexuality and training in Tantric Sex.
The neo-tantric style of my coaching supports the sexual thriving AND spiritual thriving of my clients; you are not reduced to your body, nor is there any reason to transcend or dismiss the body as an essential part of your humanity and who you are.
In other words, your body does matter -- a lot. The key is to relate to your body as a source of intuition, natural beauty, pleasure, and spiritual power (rather than an object to be judged, used, and consumed by others).
Why It Works
My coaching techniques blend insights from current research on the science of neurobiology and emotional healing with tantra-inspired energetic and sexual healing practices, for power mind-body integration. You'll learn to reframe the way you THINK about your body while opening up new ways to experience the wisdom, pleasure, and healing powers of your body that will leave you shouting,
"WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME MY BODY COULD DO THIS BEFORE??"
"Michelle was coaching me during a pivotal time in my life, a time when I was ready to shift a lot of patterns that I had unwittingly been reenacting in my intimate relationships.
Michelle focused mainly on my desires, and got to me to recreate these experiences on a somatic level in my own body. It was so incredible to understand that these experiences are always within me and that I can recreate them at any time.
As we went through our coaching trajectory we uncovered lots of sticky thought processes that were held together from years of societal conditioning and needing to seek external validation.
Building upon each session, we began to paint a new picture of what my new sexual story could be, how to feel beautiful in my own body, and how to de-couple the need for validation through meeting traditional beauty standards.
She also helped me breakthrough a piece that I had been working on for years! The piece being how to reconcile wanting to be in a polyamorous relationship while at the same time constantly comparing myself to other partners and other women."
Magda Yoc, Canada
Open to the endless possibilities of my body and my pleasure potential...
"I wanted to work through my resistance to self-pleasure and experience orgasm without a vibrator. I got what I wanted!
During the course of working with Michelle, I was able to have a squirting orgasm! I feel so much more anchored in my body and way less resistance to self-pleasure. I experienced states of pure ecstasy when I was doing my sessions with Michelle and I know this is just the beginning for me. I feel way more open to the orgasmic potential of my body.
Before I was CERTAIN that it was impossible for me to have an orgasm and while I may not be having full-body orgasms YET, I feel the absolute potential for them in my body. I could see all the ways that I was blocking myself from pleasure and now I am open to the endless possibilities of my body and my pleasure potential. Thank you, Michelle!"
Want results like these?
Want to experience more pleasure, presence, and confidence in your body?
Of course you do!
But it's not easy, is it?
Take the training to learn the #1 obstacle holding women back from feeling better in their bodies, and 3 simple things you can do TODAY to start reversing these toxic patterns.
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