Your sexual vitality matters

The body policing, victim-blaming, and slut-shaming of Patriarchal Sex Culture has left so many women with the sense that sex itself is not FOR them, and that looking good is far more important than feeling good in our own bodies...

...but this isn't the natural state of things. 

And we can unravel the disempowering narratives of Patriarchal Sex Culture from the inside out, changing society as we pursue our own sexual-spiritual liberation!

hi, I'm michelle

And I want to help you love sex, your body, and your truest self, through

Sacred Sexuality

THE BODYWISE

Method

The deepest, most sustainable, and rapid transformations must incorporate the wisdom and energetics of the body.

My coaching and teaching methodology will guide you again and again to tune into your body to

  • Clarify your desire so you direct your precious time and energy moving toward things that truly excite and fulfill you (not the stuff you're just "supposed" to want)
  • Elevate your pleasure so you spend more time in peak states of gratitude, sensuality, and feeling turned on by your relationship and life itself
  • Unlock stores of sexual energy and power that you didn't even know you had in you, and learn to wield that power to unravel tired, old narratives and create the reality you desire

THE BODYWISE

Academy

An ever-growing collection of self-paced online courses to help you reach specific goals in your sexual-spiritual journey. 

THE BODYWISE

Collective

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I believe all bodies are made for sex.

I believe that everyone, and our diverse physical vessels, are worthy of intimate connection, of feeling GOOD, of experiencing states of deep union with the core of our being and with other divine humans.

But capitalism manufactures insecurity and "problems" with our bodies in order to sell us something to "fix" them....

..so we've all ended up acutely aware of at least one "problem area" in our appearance. More frequently, several.

And as soon as one gets resolved ("My p*ssy is perfect thanks to the vulva-plasty and brazilian wax!")...

...another one surfaces ("Fuck, look at those wrinkes! Is that a gray hair? Do my teeth need whitened?")

And Patriarchal Sex Culture (see green box below) has been frustratingly telling us (for goddess knows how long) that while our primary value is in being sex objects, our bodies are also unacceptable and a source of shame.

Our bodies are simultaneously so arousing that wearing anything revealing makes us responsible for receiving unwanted and sexually aggressive attention...

.....and they are also so "flawed" that they are unworthy of being desired just as they are.

And OH YEAH white supremacy has a lot of sneaky fucked-up ways it also defines beauty and health and makes these things indicators of social value and worthiness. 

So just remember, the problem isn't YOU -- it's all this << gestures to text above>> bullshit.

Creating New Realities from the Inside Out

But we CAN create new systems. Ones that do not force us to choose between feeling desirable in our bodies and being in alignment with our values. 

And we do that by unraveling how those systems have been internalized within us individually, as well as dismantling them in a wider social context.

When we change our inner reality, when we internalize more empowering narratives about our bodies, sexuality, and human nature, those new realities get reflect back to us as cultural change.

If you are unclear about what that "inner work" looks like, but you KNOW you want to shift your INNER reality and EMBODY the truth that all bodies are worthy of pleasure, connection, intimacy, all the beautiful things great sex has to offer...

Then you are in the exact right place.

Patriarchal Sex Culture: A pattern of narratives, norms, and beliefs about human sexuality that dismiss, ignore, and undermine the needs and perspectives of the Feminine, resulting in a social epidemic of Toxic Masculinity, sexual abuse, slut-shaming, victim-blaming, and body shaming.


Sub-cultures of Patriarchal Sex Culture include rape culture and incel culture.

3 Pillars of Sacred Sexuality

Elevating Pleasure

In Sacred Sex, sexual pleasure is not dirty or sinful or indulgent, or an obstacle to Higher Consciousness.

To the contrary, our bodies have been designed to experience all kinds of sensual ecstasy because pleasure is medicine, it heals, it soothes, it nourishes, and we are free to enjoy it.

Playing with Sexual Energy

Often illustrated in terms of masculine energy v. feminine energy, sexual energy is the play of polarity in all of life, and learning to balance these energies within ourselves so that we can experience deep, electric connection with others and the Universe itself.

Trusting the Body

Going beyond body image, sacred sexuality teaches body reverence: trusting and respecting the body as our connection to Nature, to Life Force, to the wisdom of cycles. In a world that encourages us to control and dominate our bodies, sacred sexuality upholds the body as a great teacher.

About Michelle

Mindfulness-centered: Michelle has over 10 years' experience working in psychology research labs, exploring the benefits and mechanisms of change for therapies such as Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and Dialectical Behavior Therapy on trauma and depression, which now inform her coaching practice. Working with her, you'll find yourself constantly invited back to your body, to self-awareness, to self-regulation, and to your power to respond -- rather than react -- moment to moment.

Trauma-informed: Michelle's work is highly trauma-informed. With a PTSD research team in Seattle, she co-authored 16 publications appearing in the American Journal of MedicineMedical Care, the Journal of Clinical Psychology, the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, and the Journal of Traumatic Stress, as well as a chapter on Post-traumatic Stress Disorder in the 4th Edition of Integrative Medicine.

Tantra-inspired: Michelle completed a 600-hour training in the Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach to coaching, with specialized certification in Female Sexuality and Tantric Sex from the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality.  While she is not committed to tantra as her path of liberation, several key concepts used in her coaching programs draw from her study of tantra and neo-tantra.  

BODYWISE

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